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It's been such a long long time ever since I posted anything like this.
This time's topic, however, is something that I intend to post a long time ago.
I watched Oprah Winfrey's show one afternoon, and they were talking about this woman (I can't remember if she's a person with status or not; though I think she's an author) that she was once involved in an abusive relationship. Even though she was tortured by her other half brutally physically and mentally, she did not leave him and she didn't know why she wouldn't walk away. It wasn't exactly because she loved him and can't afford to loose him and such that made her stick to him.
It was then later she knew the reason why.
She used to have good relationships before this guy who abused her, even though all of the past did not turn out to be a happy ending. Yet this time, she continue to stick to be tortured rather than stick to old happy moments that did not last.
Why?
Part of it is because she had got used to this abusiveness. Another part of it is because it had already became a part of her. The other part is it is part of her.
This woman (yeah I think she wrote a book about this and relationship and such) told Oprah and the audiences about attraction between two genders. A person tend to get attracted by the opposite sex who is similar to us. Now let's just put the "opposite attraction" part away for this post (*winks*).
Falling for the opposite sex who is similar to yourself, is like falling in love with yourself. It sounds really weird but do think about it. Somehow, this is a way to learn about youself rather than the person in front of you because the person that you're in love with, reflects who you are (but not who you really are).
Just like the woman I mentioned earlier. She was involved in an abusive relationship, yet she did not pull herself away. Why? It's because deep down inside her, she is an abusive person. However, she did not bring that value out of her but take in the abusiveness from outside instead.
Personally, I agree with her.
-Jas-
This time's topic, however, is something that I intend to post a long time ago.
I watched Oprah Winfrey's show one afternoon, and they were talking about this woman (I can't remember if she's a person with status or not; though I think she's an author) that she was once involved in an abusive relationship. Even though she was tortured by her other half brutally physically and mentally, she did not leave him and she didn't know why she wouldn't walk away. It wasn't exactly because she loved him and can't afford to loose him and such that made her stick to him.
It was then later she knew the reason why.
She used to have good relationships before this guy who abused her, even though all of the past did not turn out to be a happy ending. Yet this time, she continue to stick to be tortured rather than stick to old happy moments that did not last.
Why?
Part of it is because she had got used to this abusiveness. Another part of it is because it had already became a part of her. The other part is it is part of her.
This woman (yeah I think she wrote a book about this and relationship and such) told Oprah and the audiences about attraction between two genders. A person tend to get attracted by the opposite sex who is similar to us. Now let's just put the "opposite attraction" part away for this post (*winks*).
Falling for the opposite sex who is similar to yourself, is like falling in love with yourself. It sounds really weird but do think about it. Somehow, this is a way to learn about youself rather than the person in front of you because the person that you're in love with, reflects who you are (but not who you really are).
Just like the woman I mentioned earlier. She was involved in an abusive relationship, yet she did not pull herself away. Why? It's because deep down inside her, she is an abusive person. However, she did not bring that value out of her but take in the abusiveness from outside instead.
Personally, I agree with her.
-Jas-
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