Family myths/ beliefs.
I should be doing my assignment... lol. I shall (try to)make this a quick, short blog.
Being 197347023847203984234710980943834573094857 miles away from home, I thank God for the invention of Skype that made communication easier and friendlier (even though I always complain how Skype performed badly at times). I just Skyped back home a short while ago, with mom ending the session: "I miss you-lah!" *disconnects* And I'm guessing she's showering her face with some tears. Welp. =/
There's a Chinese saying that "every family has a difficult mantra", which means in every household, there will be their very own difficulties of any sort. This, of course, applies to my own immediate family and two different sides of extended families. In yesterday's family therapy class, there was a discussion about "family myths/ beliefs" that we possess or practice within our own families. One of the myths discussed was "family members should be happy together" - which was what my mom had raised when Skyping with me earlier on, sharing her story about what's going on within her own side of the family.
Sometimes, I wish everyone could learn to understand that we really couldn't please everyone in the world - including our own family members (even though I don't live by this... "philosophy" myself, giving lots of hardcore emotional moments =/). Its not a compulsory or necessarily an ideal factor that every single person (in this case, every family members) should be happy together when you're pretty much stuck with them for the longest time as you live - of course there will be disagreements and all sorts of negative stuff. Yet, all of us strive so much for "happiness" without knowing what it really is for most of the time.
I remember a very good quote my lecturer mentioned in family therapy class about having a balanced family dynamic (though I might remember wrongly, but it goes along the lines) -
It suddenly became clear to me, that within my families - every one is trying hard to mold everybody into some sort of collective mold, and never see these individual differences as something to be cherished. This is where things may seem to be falling apart, and everyone getting emotional and rejecting towards each other.
Well... time for me to do real research on my assignment and bath.
-Jas-
Being 197347023847203984234710980943834573094857 miles away from home, I thank God for the invention of Skype that made communication easier and friendlier (even though I always complain how Skype performed badly at times). I just Skyped back home a short while ago, with mom ending the session: "I miss you-lah!" *disconnects* And I'm guessing she's showering her face with some tears. Welp. =/
There's a Chinese saying that "every family has a difficult mantra", which means in every household, there will be their very own difficulties of any sort. This, of course, applies to my own immediate family and two different sides of extended families. In yesterday's family therapy class, there was a discussion about "family myths/ beliefs" that we possess or practice within our own families. One of the myths discussed was "family members should be happy together" - which was what my mom had raised when Skyping with me earlier on, sharing her story about what's going on within her own side of the family.
Sometimes, I wish everyone could learn to understand that we really couldn't please everyone in the world - including our own family members (even though I don't live by this... "philosophy" myself, giving lots of hardcore emotional moments =/). Its not a compulsory or necessarily an ideal factor that every single person (in this case, every family members) should be happy together when you're pretty much stuck with them for the longest time as you live - of course there will be disagreements and all sorts of negative stuff. Yet, all of us strive so much for "happiness" without knowing what it really is for most of the time.
I remember a very good quote my lecturer mentioned in family therapy class about having a balanced family dynamic (though I might remember wrongly, but it goes along the lines) -
A good family is where we acknowledge and accept our individual differences; and despite those differences we could still come and stay together as one.
It suddenly became clear to me, that within my families - every one is trying hard to mold everybody into some sort of collective mold, and never see these individual differences as something to be cherished. This is where things may seem to be falling apart, and everyone getting emotional and rejecting towards each other.
Well... time for me to do real research on my assignment and bath.
-Jas-
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