Have you ever wondered...(3)
...how does it actually feel to be a single child ? Well, I'm here to answer you that question. And to tell others (that is, IF those who happen to see this blog, and are curious to know) that some of the perception about "single child" is... I wouldn't say it's wrong, but it is somehow untrue in some families and situations.
Normally others... Oh, maybe those who still don't really know me, are curious, why I actually wrote this topic? Am I somehow eligible to write this? Yes, I AM eligible, because I AM a single child. It's not that I have a power, but I understand more than those who have siblings in their families, and well... I do understand more, either more or less, than others about being a single child.
Normally these are what others think about a single child:
1. he/she is the pearl of his/her parents
2. he/she can get (almost) everything he/she wants
3. he/she got pampered like !@*&#$*&^! by his/her parents
4. his/her parents love them like !!@*&^$#*@^#
5. he/she don't have to share things with siblings since they don't have one
6. he/she will get things first handed
7. he/she (probably) don't have to do any of the house chores, because most probably there's a maid in the house, or maybe his/her parents think that they're so precious that they don't have to do such "hard work". (mostly especially when other thinks that this single child is from a reasonably wealthy background)
8. he/she gets the bestest things around, e.g. handphones, mp3/4, camera, clothes...
9. he/she don't have to worry whether he/she will have or not having the education needed (since his/her parents only have one child, which means there's much lesser burden to support him/her financially)
10. his/her parents are strict with them, compared with those who have a few children in the family
11. he/she acts like a child
12. he/she are more independent than others
13. he/she don't have to quarrel with siblings, which made life much easier
...... Any other points? I can't recall any now.
According to the points I've listed above, I would say, some are true and some are just so not true. However, under different situations and backgrounds, things get complicated or just more variation or whatever you might think, that made 'em different.
So, I would just say things that are about ME. About how I feel, how I am, how... Yada, yada yada...
1. Yes, undeniably. I wouldn't say that I AM THE pearl. I would say they give me 100% TLC, since they only have one child.
2. (Almost) Everything he/she wants? Well, that's a NO to my situation here. However, to other single child I've met, I would say, some of them yes. My parents do not give me everything (or even almost) that I wanted. Not because they're bad or something, they just think that it's no good to pamper a child too much with materials. Which means...
3. My parents don't pamper me like !*&!^@&^#%$. Some of the times yes; however, not all the time. Which I think it's so OK with me. ^__^
4. Yes, my parents love me like @*#&^*#$^. Maybe to put it this way, they only have to put all their attention to me ONLY. So, why not?
5. Sharing? Who says single child have nothing to do with sharing?! I DO share my things with others such as friends and my cousins.
6. And who said single child gets things first handed. In my case, I have more second handed or third handed or dunno how many handed things under my "property". If you mean darn wealthy family, well, probably they get everything first handed.
7. No, I don't have a house maid. And no, my parents don't think I'm too precious until I don't have to do house chores. In fact, they think I should do EVERYTHING. And I AM doing the most I could.
8. No no no no... Not for me... Not until the current one is like sooooo old until it barely can function, THEN only I get the good ones. And mind you, I don't have an mp3. I have most of the things (eg new pc, handphone, camera) AFTER I got into college, because I NEED them, not because I WANT THEM. Besides my camera, which is for my birthday. Haha~ Thank you daddy~~ *muaxxx*
9. My case, not really. Curious why? Because it is so, so it is so. It's personal.
10. I found this true, in MY situation, compared to others. Why? Figure out yourselves, I'm sure you know the reasons. Plus, I'm a single daughter, not son. Any differences? YES.
11. Acts like a child? *laughs* Hell, I have to admit, sometimes yes. However, I do think I'm more mature (more or less, and no offence) compared to my peers.
12. I'm not sure about this independent issue. I don't think I'm independent, because I always need at least one person beside me time to time.
13. Life's easier without siblings? Until a certain extent, yes. However, being a single child, there are times that I feel lonely because I don't have siblings to play with, not to say quarrel, LOL. I don't have a sibling to share problems with me. Does that mean life's easier? You tell me then. However, I'm thankful that I have friends around me to fill up all these emptiness that I had.
Hmm... I suppose that's about what I wanna say. If there are any things that I forgot to mention, I'll post an extra blog.
If those who happen to read this, and still have questions, feel free to ask. I'll try my best to give you answers.
-Jas-
Normally others... Oh, maybe those who still don't really know me, are curious, why I actually wrote this topic? Am I somehow eligible to write this? Yes, I AM eligible, because I AM a single child. It's not that I have a power, but I understand more than those who have siblings in their families, and well... I do understand more, either more or less, than others about being a single child.
Normally these are what others think about a single child:
1. he/she is the pearl of his/her parents
2. he/she can get (almost) everything he/she wants
3. he/she got pampered like !@*&#$*&^! by his/her parents
4. his/her parents love them like !!@*&^$#*@^#
5. he/she don't have to share things with siblings since they don't have one
6. he/she will get things first handed
7. he/she (probably) don't have to do any of the house chores, because most probably there's a maid in the house, or maybe his/her parents think that they're so precious that they don't have to do such "hard work". (mostly especially when other thinks that this single child is from a reasonably wealthy background)
8. he/she gets the bestest things around, e.g. handphones, mp3/4, camera, clothes...
9. he/she don't have to worry whether he/she will have or not having the education needed (since his/her parents only have one child, which means there's much lesser burden to support him/her financially)
10. his/her parents are strict with them, compared with those who have a few children in the family
11. he/she acts like a child
12. he/she are more independent than others
13. he/she don't have to quarrel with siblings, which made life much easier
...... Any other points? I can't recall any now.
According to the points I've listed above, I would say, some are true and some are just so not true. However, under different situations and backgrounds, things get complicated or just more variation or whatever you might think, that made 'em different.
So, I would just say things that are about ME. About how I feel, how I am, how... Yada, yada yada...
1. Yes, undeniably. I wouldn't say that I AM THE pearl. I would say they give me 100% TLC, since they only have one child.
2. (Almost) Everything he/she wants? Well, that's a NO to my situation here. However, to other single child I've met, I would say, some of them yes. My parents do not give me everything (or even almost) that I wanted. Not because they're bad or something, they just think that it's no good to pamper a child too much with materials. Which means...
3. My parents don't pamper me like !*&!^@&^#%$. Some of the times yes; however, not all the time. Which I think it's so OK with me. ^__^
4. Yes, my parents love me like @*#&^*#$^. Maybe to put it this way, they only have to put all their attention to me ONLY. So, why not?
5. Sharing? Who says single child have nothing to do with sharing?! I DO share my things with others such as friends and my cousins.
6. And who said single child gets things first handed. In my case, I have more second handed or third handed or dunno how many handed things under my "property". If you mean darn wealthy family, well, probably they get everything first handed.
7. No, I don't have a house maid. And no, my parents don't think I'm too precious until I don't have to do house chores. In fact, they think I should do EVERYTHING. And I AM doing the most I could.
8. No no no no... Not for me... Not until the current one is like sooooo old until it barely can function, THEN only I get the good ones. And mind you, I don't have an mp3. I have most of the things (eg new pc, handphone, camera) AFTER I got into college, because I NEED them, not because I WANT THEM. Besides my camera, which is for my birthday. Haha~ Thank you daddy~~ *muaxxx*
9. My case, not really. Curious why? Because it is so, so it is so. It's personal.
10. I found this true, in MY situation, compared to others. Why? Figure out yourselves, I'm sure you know the reasons. Plus, I'm a single daughter, not son. Any differences? YES.
11. Acts like a child? *laughs* Hell, I have to admit, sometimes yes. However, I do think I'm more mature (more or less, and no offence) compared to my peers.
12. I'm not sure about this independent issue. I don't think I'm independent, because I always need at least one person beside me time to time.
13. Life's easier without siblings? Until a certain extent, yes. However, being a single child, there are times that I feel lonely because I don't have siblings to play with, not to say quarrel, LOL. I don't have a sibling to share problems with me. Does that mean life's easier? You tell me then. However, I'm thankful that I have friends around me to fill up all these emptiness that I had.
Hmm... I suppose that's about what I wanna say. If there are any things that I forgot to mention, I'll post an extra blog.
If those who happen to read this, and still have questions, feel free to ask. I'll try my best to give you answers.
-Jas-
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