People thought that all they need in a relationship is love. Well, and other values such as loyalty, trust, caring… Whatever values that you think it is needed in a relationship, just put it in. (Because I can’t really think of anything else, haha~) However, I don’t really think the value called “love” is enough to get things started and to get the “wheels” running. In my personal opinion, there’s one very important “element” needed in a relationship, or even before anything else has even developed. The so-called “element” is: guts. If you’re laughing, or think that what I’m saying is just simply pathetic, you can just continue laughing, and not read it. Or, you can read it if you like, just to know what I think about it.
Still think that I’m possibly joking? No, I’m not. I DO think that “guts” IS the most important value needed (well, besides love-lah, without love, then why is the relationship started anyway? LOL)
Try to think about it. Before anything else, you need guts to make friends with the opposite sex. Funny? However, this is true! If you don’t have the guts to know or to understand the opposite sex, you might as well just being ignored. Ok, so maybe you’re saying “Can’t the opposite sex come and make friends with me?” Yes, yes, you might not be the one who started the first move. Still, you STILL need GUTS to talk to the person! If not how are you gonna react? Just stand there and be a stiff wood or something? LOL.
After making friends with the opposite sex, the next thing is to raise a topic to TALK. Guts need not? LOL. It is still needed. It is similar to the earlier “case”; you need the guts to start talking, and also to answer to the person. If you’re a shy person and you kept quiet all along, well, the opposite sex might just don’t even wanna bother you. Heh~ that’s why I said: Guts? Needed!
Ok, so I’m a little slow in the progress eh? Let’s just skip all the way to confess your feelings! Ah-hah~ I suppose now you sense that GUTS is needed?? I bet you do! You just need to gather all the courage you have in you (even if it’s like… negative guts!) to tell your “dream girl/guy” how you felt about him/her. Boy, how challenging is that?
After all those confessing and what-so-ever, the next thing you need is the courage to love someone, or to receive the love from the opposite sex. This is actually the main thing that I wanted to talk about. I found out that, it was never easy to love someone, as in to give out love, and to receive love at the same time. Why? Well, I have no idea why! Haha~ Besides that, you need the courage to tell others that you’ve already accept this person that he/she is your special someone. Telling your friends about this is easy. Well, at least it is a lot easier to tell them rather than: your parents. Typical, huh? I suppose so. (Dunno what the hell I am talking here.)
What else? The courage to be responsible, to be loyal, to be caring, to be committing, to be…… everything! There are just too many things to mention. In a net shell, you really need the courage in almost everything in a relationship. (Not the courage for asking sex ok?! LOL! Think of the consequences for having premarital sex! AND there’s NO SUCH THING as SAFE SEX.) Think wisely people.
Oh ya, I forgot one more thing. You must have the courage to accept the person you take him/her as your bf/gf. What I’m trying to say is that, people change. Once, you know your loved one as such a wonderful person, such a perfect person with the fewest flaws; however, after the both of you get together, things tend to change, and that is when the both of you see the real side of each other. Are you brave enough to accept the worst? Only you can tell.
Did I actually mention my point? I dunno. I hope those who read this know what I’m saying. That’s all.
-Jas-
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